Self Love and Self Sabotoge

 

 

 

 

1. STOP ALL CRITICISM

   Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize
yourself. Accept yourself exactly as your are.
Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your
changes are negative. When you approve of your self
your changes are positive.

2. SWITCH SCARING YOURSELF TO LOVING
YOURSELF

   Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a
dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives
you pleasure and immediately switch your scary
thought to a pleasant thought.

3.BE GENTLE, KIND AND PATIENT

   Be gentle with yourself . Be kind to yourself. Be
patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of
thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you
really love.

4.BE KIND TO YOUR MIND

   Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't
hate yourself for having thoughts. Gently change your
thoughts.

5. PRAISE YOURSELF

   Criticism breaks down inner spirit. Praise builds it up.
Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how
well you are doing with even the little things.

6. SUPPORT YOURSELF

   Find way to support yourself. Reach out to friends and
allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for
help when you need it.

7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES

   Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need.
Now you are finding new , positive ways to fulfill those
needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY

   Learn about nutrition . What kind of fuel does your
body need to have optimum energy and vitality. Learn
about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy?
Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. MIRROR WORK

   Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense
of love your have for your self. Forgive yourself
looking into the mirror. Talk to parents or others and
forgive them also. At least once a day say : " I love
you, I really love you"

10. LOVE YOURSELF ..... DO IT NOW

   Don't wait until your get well , or lose weight , or get
the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now - and
do the best you can."

 

Taken from "Skills for Life workbook for Clients" Rapid Eye
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At some point in each person's life we start to notice that the same patterns keep coming up for us again and again. Maybe we start to notice we are picking the same kind of person in our relationships or maybe it is in our job or school environment that we notice these patterns. The negative and unwanted patterns that keep repeating in our lives are there because of a pattern of self-sabotage on our part. We are holding some negative belief about ourselves, others or life in general. When we hold beliefs in our subconscious mind they soon manifest in our conscious mind and then in the patterns in our lives. The key to loving ourselves is to discover and eliminate our self-sabotaging beliefs in our subconscious mind and to train our conscious mind to think positive thoughts.
So why would we develop and hold onto negative thoughts and beliefs about ourselves in a way that creates self-sabotage in our lives?  It can be difficult to understand why we would want to experience pain and suffering over and over again, and yet we do. From the day we enter into this world we are evaluating our world and how we fit into it. We begin to form beliefs about the world around us, our family and ourselves. We are desperately trying to figure out our role and place in this life. Sometimes we develop negative beliefs about what role we play in life and how others feel about us. It is said that we have a stronger need to belong then to be loved or to positively contribute to life. So it really does not matter to us when we are young if we develop negative or positive beliefs as long as those beliefs help us define how we belong in the world. If we have negative role models or trauma in our early lives then it is almost certain that we will develop negative beliefs in our subconscious mind. We then will take every chance we can as we continue in life to create experiences that support the way we belong in this world.

In order to understand self-sabotoge you need to understand the role our subconscious mind plays and how the beliefs held there work in our lives. Our subconsious minds main job is to keep us alive and to hold onto any beliefs that will make that happen no matter how painful an experience might be if we live through it then the subconscious mind see's that as a success. The subconscious mind is also very resistant to changing beliefs that are formed early on in life. In fact it is always creating situations in your life to prove it's self  right no matter how negative the patterns might be. So when we talk about the difference between self love and self sabotoge the difference is in the beliefs you hold in your subconscious mind. Either you have negative beliefs about yourself or positive beliefs about yourself. You can tell which ones you are holding there by what patterns are showing up in your life. 

So how do you change the negative beliefs to positive beliefs?

You have to go to the time and reason the negative belief was created and release that negative belief there and replace it with a positive one. The techniques that I use are specially designed to go to the core issues in the subconscious mind and eliminate any negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones.

Here are some tips that you can use to start creating more self love and acceptance in your life.

 
 

" How to Love Yourself